Parents always blame themselves when their teenage son or daughter ran away from home but, what parents don't know is that a teenager run away from home for all sort of different reason, greed, insecurity, security, shame, experimenting, etc.
Some teenagers don't always run away from home just because of these statements posted above. Some a teens run way because they feel unwanted because, their parents not spending enough time with them, maybe because of work. And sometimes some teen don't run away from home, they get thrown out from their home, its unfortunate but it happened, it happens and will continued too. And it could be for any different reason why, or maybe parents does that to teach his teen a lesson or maybe, just don't want to put up with their attitude or for whatever other reason they do it.
It is not the best solution for any parents to take on a trouble kid specially a teen.
And even if after throwing your kid out turn out for the better, it is not the right or correct way to discipline a trouble child, because the majority teens that get kick out and get accept back into their house still act the same way.
Teens also run away from home for other reason; secure or insecurity that they felt.
Secure; means that a teenager started hanging out with the wrong crew or even the right crew, and they felt like they more comfortable been around they new friends, instead of being with their parents or inside the house.
Insecurity; means that a teenager don't feel secure with their parents or being inside the house for whatever reason that may be, so therefore the only way to feel secure is running away and experiment things, hat they didn't feel comfortable doing around the house.
Teenagers run away for other reason such as, drug abuse and alcohol abuse, pregnancy, peer pressure, stress but, it is hard for you as a parent to noticed those signs from your teen, and I know you are asking yourself how do you noticed those signs? Well it is easier said than done, some teenagers don't even show signs, they acted normal, and some do, for the ones that dont show no signs, its a parents job to find out.
That is why I always recommend that as a parent you spend some time talking to your teens.
It doesn't matter, how busy you are, how many jobs you working or how long the conversation is.
There is not an excuse in the word that is acceptable for not having 5 or 2 minutes a day to talk with your kids about what is going in his life, school etc. And for the teenagers that do show sign, and here are some example (coming home late, a different vibe, face expressions, in their room all day, not talking to other siblings, eating habits etc).
All a parents have to do is have that little talk with their teens to figure out what is bothering them.
And as for parents the best thing you can do is, See, Listen, Talk, Answer, and Solve any problem between you and your teens. And remember a child running away is not always a parents fault, it sometime both a parents and the kids fault.
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